I knew that I shouldn’t have put our wedding cake topper on a 3 tier metal tray. But I did. And this is the result of it falling off, hitting the counter, and landing on the floor.
I could have bought a new one from Hobby Lobby for $12.49. But it wasn’t “the one” that we used on our wedding day.
So it sat on my counter for a few weeks, sadly, until I got around to getting some super glue to try to put it back together. Everyday when I went into the kitchen I saw it sitting there, broken into pieces. As the days kept passing by and it kept sitting in its broken state on the counter, God began to speak to me.
My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years. I saw this broken ceramic sculpture as a symbol of our relationship. No we aren’t falling apart, well mostly, but stay with me.
I remember taking this cake topper out of the box. It was new and pearly white. Prior to it breaking it had some scuffs, dirt, and even a chip or two. And then it broke. This past year was a break through and pivotal time in our relationship. We had things a long the way in our marriage that had left marks here and there. And some things that were a little bigger that left chips. And we even faced some things were we felt like we were in separate pieces.
It was sad looking at the broken cake topper when the Lord brought all of this to my attention. The things that our marriage had faced. And I would look at the broken piece on the counter everyday and think about everything that we had been through together.
I started finding scripture that surrounded this theme of “broken”.
Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the broken hearted and he binds up their wounds”.
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in their spirit”. Psalm 34:18
I grew weary in looking at the brokenness on my counter day after day and relied on Amazon for super glue. It’s really a funny thing because I was sitting in the kitchen floor trying to piece this cake topper back together and it just would not hold. The topper had broken into three pieces and it wasn’t until I put glue on all three pieces and held them all together (quite a sight as a I was using the bread box to help hold one of the sides) that it would bind.
See, in a marriage you have to have three. You have to have Jesus. And that is why when i tried to put one piece on by its self, it would not bind.
I could have save a lot of time and hassle if I had just ordered the new cake topper from Hobby Lobby. Even eight years later they still have the same one. But we aren’t new. We didn’t just get married. We aren’t pearly white and without flaws. But I don’t want to be. I want the battles that we have fought and overcome. I don’t want to revert back to who we were. I love who we are now; which is why I couldn’t just buy a new cake topper. I needed to repair the first one we had. People in today’s society are so quick to throw the broken piece away and go get a new one. Sister, that cake topper can break just like the last one. We need more commitment to what we already have and what we already said yes to. New is not always better.
I honestly think that if the cake topper were to fall again that it would not break in the same place. I think it is stronger than it was before. In the same way, our marriage is stronger. Strengthen what you have. Don’t sweep it up and throw out. It would have been easier, yes. But, I do not think that I would cherish it near as much. Pick up the pieces and start gluing them back together. Most importantly, make sure that you are binding yourselves with Jesus or none of it will stick.